Food was scarce growing up, so she determined that she would always eat well when she grew up.
She never had the right clothes or brands, so now her porch is always piled with packages filled with the latest trends and best brands.
Her parents were too consumed with themselves to notice her, so she works overtime to stand out and be noticed by everyone.
Whatever you lacked as a child is typically what you spend adulthood trying to gain. You strive and strive to make peace with the needs of your childhood that were never fully met, but your efforts are never enough. You can never lose enough weight; you can never have enough pairs of shoes; you can never have a big enough bank account or travel to all the right places. So you continue to try harder and put all of your focus on fulfilling that need, while missing out on what you are truly seeking.
Trust me, I know how this merry-go-round works. I have spent my entire adulthood trying to make up for what I felt was lacking in my past. As a result, I spend most of my time and energy trying to ensure those needs are met, that I will never be without them again. But those needs are a black hole that go on endlessly, and all that effort trying to satisfy them leads to anxiety, fear, control, and worry.
Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Sisters we can’t change the past, but we can work with Christ to change the way we think about the present. It is hard work, but when we consistently focus on truth and filter our thoughts through scripture, we can change the way we think. We can decide that losing weight or having things isn’t what we are really after in the end. We are all looking for a safe peaceful place to land. Our best chance of finding that is in Christ and not in a relentless fight to make up for what we didn’t have.
Start by asking God where he was in your childhood and recognizing His merciful hand in your life, even when you didn’t see it. He was there all along, and He still is. Let’s partner together with Christ to evaluate our wants and needs; only then can we discover what our hearts are truly after and filter life through the truth of His word.